PullJoy: The Secrets of a Pickup Artist

“Sex and the City”. Match.com. e-Harmony. Speed dating. Yahoo! personals. Singles cruises and getaways. Professional matchmakers. First Fridays happy hours. Relationship message boards and chat rooms. Yuppie kickball leagues. Date doctors. All these things exist, to some degree, because it’s not easy to meet eligible people that suit one’s preferences. Even in metropoli such as New York and L.A., and cities full of former collegians like Boston, people complain. Atlanta too. For all the ease of communication, the self-help books, the bar scene and the consultants, none of it does you guys a bit of good if you’re uncomfortable approaching women. If you get tongue-tied, speed dating isn’t gonna help you. If you’re gun shy, moving to a hottie haven such as Miami only makes things worse. That’s why I started PullJoy. The blog, the individual consultations, the newsletter, the group seminars. No guts, no glory.

I’ve been where you are, but I read up on women, listened more closely to their bellyaching about guys, learned from movies, sucked it up, and got in the game. I was 23, and life was passing me by. This existence is too short for that. But you can meet all the women in the world via the Internet, or a dating service- if they don’t think you’re smooth, you’re shot. You’re also out some cash. Highly sought after women prefer directed, confident men. Fear signals other shortcomings.

Grow your inner mack- this is more important than any salary or sporty ride. No one can take it away from you. I have your best interest at heart.  I’m guaranteed to take you from geek to chic.

Beginning Wednesday, May 21, PullJoy: The Seduction Newsletter, and other articles of mine, will appear every Wednesday at www.sexblogger.com.

ST

Learn from some of the top female sex bloggers on the ’sphere, here:

http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/05/16/girl-talk

You guys generally aren’t privvy to this level of girl talk, so I thought I’d break you off. ST thinks about you.

ST

Memoirs of a lady who got busy:

http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/loveandromance/articlemc.aspx?cp-documentid=7074868

ST

“Kegel”ing works, guys. You merely tense and relax the muscles you use to hold your urine when you can’t get to a restroom. Control over those helps prevent premature ejaculation. I’ll let the sexperts tell it:

http://www.wusa9.com/news/health/story.aspx?storyid=71695

I also offer bedroom and pickup tips via e-mail (smooth.talker@live.com), and schedule private consultations for guys in Metropolitan Washington.

ST

Life is grand. Above all else, have some fun with this pickup stuff. Fall in love with life, and the pretty women will come. How does one adopt the attitude it takes to attract beautiful women, overnight? Let’s go back to your childhood? Remember how we’d pretend we were our favorite pro football players when we played tackle or touch, taking on all their mannerisms and trademark moves? How we played cops and robbers, or “war”? We imagined we were all these things for the sake of the game. We were in character. Do the same thing here guys. When you hit a store, restaurant, or night spot, right before you approach a babe or a group of them, imagine you are Ashton Kutcher, Usher, or Josh Duhamel walking over to them, and that you hold the superior hand in the game. That whatever witty remark you make, their response and receptiveness is tempered by the fact they already like you.

Make life easier on yourself by frequenting the same establishments, so the bar staff, hostesses, or regulars light up like the proverbial Christmas trees when you enter- babes you’re just meeting will note your social capital and likeability. In my spots and stomping grounds- the babes who work there josh with me before I can even get off a zinger. Treat the dudes like you’re royalty too.

You see boys, PullJoy is 85% about you, and considerably less about learning techniques to woo hot women. If girlfriend senses that you are unique (exciting), she’ll doff the panties if her mood and the circumstances are right. Women enjoy sex as much or more than we, but can’t afford a promiscuous image. Until you internalize a high male social value, and a ‘tude that says “sexy”, the old imagination will lock you into a confident walk, posture, seated conversation, and alleviate nervous eyes. I don’t actually employ this tactic any more, because over time and experience interacting with a lot of good looking women, whether in Montreal, Puerto Rico, Boston, or California’s East Bay- I carry myself with the same assurance that LeBron, Clooney, or Tiger probably do. Not because I’ve done the things they’ve done, because of how women have come to view me, and how it has cultivated my self-esteem. So I expect eyes to follow me, and people to wonder about me when I enter a set not because of fame (which I lack), but bearing.

PullJoy is a demeanor. To quote the old deodorant ad, raise your hands if you’re sure. Highly desired women have a preference for highly desired men. Makes sense. Make the game fun, and the babes will come.

ST

From MSN.com:

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=9457&TrackingID=516188&BannerID=544603&menuid=6

ST

Over the years, through copious reading, listening to babes, trial and error, and reflection, I have developed some helpful tips regarding lovemaking and feminine arousal. As you know, male and female arousal, especially at first, differ almost antithetically. Remember, however, every woman’s sensitive areas, tastes, and responses are different. Some women you meet will tell you what they dig.

For sexual tips, e-mail me at smooth.talker@live.com. I cover bedroom decor, physiology, how to read responses, scents and colognes, talk, improving your recovery time, creative kissing, ejaculation control, and “don’t”’s. Guys in the Greater Washington, D.C. area may contact me about individual consultation. Remember fellas, chicks dig the longball.

ST

Short of being rude, or putting oneself in a situation where there is absolutely no means of establishing social capital (i.e. I’m fun, I’m fit, I’m fine or I’m favored), I advocate saying something witty to EVERY doable babe within speaking distance. Let me qualify that by stating when I say “doable”, I don’t mean “everything that moves”, or “breathing”. I mean women whose bones you’d really like to jump, even the kind (in terms of looks) you’d have had approach anxiety towards before I pulled your coat to pickup art. Be selective guys- it focuses you like little else. Tiger Woods structures his whole year around the four majors. But when I see that hottie, I almost always, unless she’s out of reach, or it would seem impolite based on who she’s with, pop something that at least lets me walk away knowing her name, and her interest level. Without doing so- I would be confined to always wondering “who”, and “…what if…?”

You don’t have to give a campaign speech. I don’t even always ask for the digits, often I’m just being on, being me. Early yesterday, I asked a raven-haired girl with a centerfold build to join for me at my table while she was in line ordering at Panera Bread. “I have to get back to work,” she said, but I know her name now- and her gig is in my neighborhood. Man, did she have a tiny waist!

Last night, with one woman whose shape and style I dug, I complimented her on a unique, large brown gemstone ring she had on, and asked if her book was a good read. It was “The Lion, The Witch And The Wardrobe”, which kicked off an easy convo about childhood, the movies adapted from C.S. Lewis’ books, a PBS biopic about Lewis, and why she (a Philadelphian) chose to attend a tiny college on Massachusetts’ North Shore. She’s moving again- so I only took things so far- but I wouldn’t know that if I hadn’t spoken up.

Another babe not long afterwards was very stylish in a summer dress and black pumps- so much so that I asked, “Are you French?” Her demeanor and ensemble hinted of Europe. Think of a shorter, but not quite as hot Charlotte on “Sex In The City”.

“No, but I take that as a compliment” she said when I gave her my reasoning. Didn’t hit on her, wasn’t quite my speed, but I engaged. Asked a girl on the subway with a body that wouldn’t quit, a question about a stop I wasn’t familiar with because I don’t ride in that particular direction, and noticed the beginnings of a tat on the base of her neck.

“What’s your tattoo?”

“It’s a panther,” she said, tugging her tee shirt down a few inches to reveal the big cat. We discussed our mutual aesthetic preference for big cats, and I told her:

“You seem like an interesting person, let’s pick this conversation up later.” Girlfriend told me she’s married. Cool- again, you see my point.

Become comfortable with women the way salespeople overcome their fear of rejection by customers- by talking to them. One converstational thread will segue into another far more naturally than you might imagine, if you’re a well-versed sort. Learn who’s on the market, who isn’t, who’s just passing through, and who digs you. It’s the only way to really be PullJoy.

ST

from MSN Lifestyle:

http://boomers.msn.com/articleMORE.aspx?cp-documentid=475477

ST

One can learn pickup skills anywhere, so keep your eyes open and your ears peeled to effective communication in musical lyrics, ads, movie lines, political speeches, and talented salespeople. The ability to sell well and influence people is a gift, as many entry level collegians and grads who tried it as a part-time gig soon learned. I was just approached by a young man who street canvasses for Greenpeace. I often avoid their spiel by walking wide of them, but didn’t think this cat saw me in his path (my first mistake- a good salesperson, like an alert PUA, is cat-quick). What did I learn from dude?

His eye contact was good, and his tone sincere. He turned the convo towards me by asking about the origin of my name. And when I tossed him off my, “I’ve given to you guys” he didn’t hesitate, he shot back:

“Let’s re-kindle that fire.” Strong choice of words- speaks to lingusitic programming. I’m sympathetic- I’ve done door-to-door sales, canvassing for products and political candidates, phone sales, and surveying- so I’ve been there. And ST has an invisible carbon footrpint- I haven’t owned a ride in 16 years. Besides that, I love green. But I digress. Dude also employed humor- when I asked what monthly membership entailed, he said:

“We send you out with the polar bears for six months, you do well with the polar bears, we bring you back and make you a member…” With a straight face. Then he said he was kidding. You may be thinking- the cat sells Greenpeace for a living ST, how sharp can he be?  Take it from a master of tone and body language- dude was a pro. I let him go on for a bit because I was peeping his style, and studying others in their element helps me (which in turn helps you- sports fans). When I begged off, he used a standard objection answer: “I know how much you care about the environment…” Can you think of an analogous line with a hottie who’s listening, but says she has to jet?

How about, “Well, I know there’s a connection, so let’s meet for tea sometime. Write your number on this (don’t ask for the digits, tell girlfriend to write it or give them)…” Or, “…we have a lot in common, let’s pick this conversation up later…” One way to avoid this situation is to cop the digits and bounce before she has a chance to say she has to.

My point is, be funny, be original, be direct, and stay on point for pretty babes at all times. Knowledge can come from any source, take note of it, and add it to your game.

ST