Great complexion, lovely eyes, and a mouth from heaven- our PullJoy© Hottie of the Week is Maggie Lawson of the USA t.v. series “Psych”:

She can solve my case any day.

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Our PullJoy© Hottie Of The Week is none another than a dancing sensation, Cheryl Burke of ABC’s “Dancing With The Stars”:

Girlfriend’s got a beautiful complexion, a winning smile, a sexy pixie ‘do, and more curves than the road from Dallas to Amarillo:

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Game recognize game, the saying goes. Of course, if your name is Tiger Woods, despite the fact babes know you’re married, you don’t have to say much to score a hole in one. For us mere mortals, our handicap is determined by perceived social standing, charm, and wardrobe- though not necessarily in that order. If I was paid like El Tigre, I wouldn’t have to run game on the caliber of night club hostesses and restaurant eye candy that he bags on the regular. But I had to develop my inborn charisma to compensate for the lack of chips. I’ve succeeded.

The same gifts that serve you well in a job interview, or breaking the proverbial ice with anyone, can get you laid. All most of you need to fine tune those skills is some basic understanding of welcome, and a lot of calm. Don’t think of pretty girls as objects to be conquered- they are individuals to get to know if you think being surrounded by them is fun. You’re just out shopping, or having a good time with or without the fellas. She just happens to be there. No putting anyone on pedestals, no string, not too much rap about work or school. Get into her head (and eventually, panties) by asking deep, meaningful questions that demonstrate you view her as an individual. Ask what she’d do with her life if she didn’t have to work, and where she’d live if money was no object. Discuss movie or literary tastes. Proceed to the variety of touch testing described elsewhere on this site, gauge her relaxation level, laughter, and agreement, or lack thereof, with your statements. Soon you’ve got to bounce or re-join your boys, but out of nowhere, as if you suddenly discovered she’s cool enough to hang out with, tell her (don’t ask) to type her digits into your phone- or do so yourself.

It’s not rocket science, but it is. Use your innate wit and gall to show her she’s nothing special to you (the “I do this all the time attitude” that prevents nervousness), and she’ll feel she’s the one on the job interview. It’s easier to pull this off in places you frequent, because your rapport with the bar staff or clientele screams “social status”, but what’s important is that you not worship beautiful women. Women don’t dislike sex- how do you think all of us got here, and how do you think the mom’s at your job had their babies? Talk to them frankly about guys, about Tiger’s predicament, about dreams and great vacations, and you’ll learn a lot.

Soon it will be the most natural thing in the world. Like having a billion bucks.

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Product review Kiss or Miss:
I wish I had read this seduction ebook years ago, as my seduction skillset would have been smoother than it is now. If you can see the big picture and have great tools it can save you a lot of time, something much better than going through the normal trial and error approach.

Kiss or Miss came late for me, I already had many skills in seduction. However, it offered me knowledge that very few men in the seduction community know about.

Here is what I found interesting:  

Kiss or Miss, offers a new type of non-verbal game that I have never seen before. Reading about this I could not help asking myself: “How come  the seduction community had not found  such an important seduction technique up to now?”. This is what takes an ordinary community guy that behaves like a social robot and trasform him to a natural seducer. Furhtermore, this type of game is what you can safely call a stealthy type of game.

Here’s the way you do this:

You control your emotional state and you influence a woman much easier than by using words. The type of attitude and emotional style you hold can trigger (or not) attraction to a girl. An enthusiastic guy can trigger attraction even if he is talking about something as boring as what he had for dinner. 

The authors go further and present five attractive non verbal attitudes that all good  seducers showt. These are: Masculine, cunning-playful, sexual, enthusiastic and deeply interested. By combining those states and switching them at will, women become attracted to men, in the same way that men get attracted to women when they exhibit  a mix of sexual and childish state (That’s what Marylin Monroe trained to do, and she based her success on that special mix of sexual + childish state). I’ve often referred to it here at PullJoy as playful and mysterious. This is not to be confused with alpha male body language or frame games, which are a completely different ball game.

Kiss or Miss provides a clever way of instantly remembering all the techniques while you are in the field. I tested the methods, and I was surprised with the fact that the authors propose a method that can help you know what to say, with the use of a simple glance. The name of this: visual mnemonics.

- The most important, new aspect of this book has to do with inner game. This seduction ebook provides an inner game analysis that is brand new and very necessary to the community. This is not  material designed to make you feel good at your current level, it really is made to help you become excellent and break through all your inner blocks. It adresses seduction as a learning journey. Forget any NLP  and hypnosis hocus pocus you know. Kiss or Miss covers some very grounded, basic ideas such as what is focus, distraction control, commitment, visualization and an important analysis of what it takes to become good at seduction. This goes all the way to a full peak performance state of mind that any player MUST have, if he wants to become good in this field. This analysis then continues on with other inner game subjects such as inner dialog, approach and sexual anxieties therapies, ego issues, self fulfilling prophecies, back rationalization, beliefs, external vs internal validation and other relevant inner game topics. I find these densely written chapters extremely important as they cover the ‘learning journey’ one has to go through to become an expert, a subject that is rarely covered in seduction ebooks.

- The authors also cover things such as the role of testosterone, food, sports, and ejaculation frequency (!) in your sexual drive.

The book is very long, and it  could easily be broken into two or three books. It really gives the reader a detailed overview of current seduction knowledge, mindset and techniques, and adds inner game tools that are new to the seduction community.

At certain points in the book, you can tell that the authors are European and not native English speakers, something that brings a fresh approach to seduction, which until now was mainly dominated by North Americans.

A brief synthesis of the content and book structure:

The book is way too detailed for those that just seek ‘get laid’ tips, but it is perfect for those who want to become pick up artists. It contains a lot of information that you will like, especially if you are a self taught seducer (in contrast to having attended a Bootcamp or being taught by a coach).

It consists of three main parts:

The first part covers the scientific principles of attraction. At first I thought that the scientists mentioned in the book did not exist, so I was very surprised when I did my own research and found them to be true. That part continues with an guide to attraction chapter that is a direct continuation of the previous one.

The second part is all about tactics and techniques. You are first taught how to become socially calibrated, a step which is not often covered in seduction books, with all sorts of details from storytelling all the way to grooming. Then you get a very technical part covering seduction methods for indirect game, direct game, night game and day game. The presentation is complete, you can find attraction methods, comfort methods, phone game and seduction methods.

The third part covers the inner game as it was presented earlier.

The overall transition is smooth, and whether you are a newbie or a seasoned player you will definitely find the ideas new and interesting. The style of the book is analytic, with lots of graphs and diagrams- a style that reminds more of a college book than an ebook.

I give Kiss or Miss five stars, and if you want to sleep with stars, you’ll read this ebook from the guys at Fast Flirting. 

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We’re honored to have the seduction insight of Dan from “Fast Flirting- The Pickup Game” http://www.fast-flirting-pickup-game.info/

Do you remember the moment you joined the seduction community ?

I still remember when I did. I was filled with enthusiasm. I had just finished reading a very well known seduction ebook and I remember thinking to myself that sky was the limit.

So, I did what every seduction community member does after they read their first seduction book. I went out and tried the methods out. I remember that my first night went quite well. I didn’t get any number or anything, but I approached three girls, and I felt very proud about it. I even got a smile during the approach. Woah, I thought to myself:  This must be the way to go. I have to keep trying.

Then some days passed and I started noticing that things were not going as planned. I was still very much afraid of talking to girls and my scripted plans were not getting the reactions I expected. I had read that if I ‘negged’ the girl she would certainly  jump on me. However, my negs only received cold reactions. Mmmm… What about storytelling ? Nope, it didn’t work either as girls would get bored midway during my story.

Something was off.

So, I took the second step that every seduction community member takes: I joined a lair. I met some interesting people there and apart from the ‘naturals’, that were closing without the use of any community advice, all the rest were probably at the same level as me: Ground floor and below.

Then reality started to creep in.

Most of the lair members would stay for only a number of weeks in the lair, and they would then disappear. They had no results, and all the rejection they were receiving was demotivating them.

What could we do ? We had all read the books but our European reality seemed to be different from the one described in books such as the Game. Then as I was looking around in different forums, I noticed that this was a global phenomenon: Most people that joined the community didn’t seem to go very far… They had a lot of approaches but few  successes… I would say that the success ratio was one out of five: For every five persons that joined a lair, four of them were doomed to quit. They would do that in an elaborate way: they would tell everyone that they had exams, or they would announce that sarging is for losers and that they preferred to just go out and have a drink instead. Well, that is OK but I used to do that before and no girl ever came to talk to me.

Then there were those ones that would follow a Bootcamp. Now for them, I think that there was some improvement. However, for me that was not an option. I was a student and I had no money to do this. Furthermore, even if I wanted to do that in the little city and country I was leaving in, that was impossible as there were no seduction seminars. Flying to London was out of the question. So, another way had to be found…

The solution came one day as I was reading a math book. At that period, I was in a phase where I had a tech project for my Phd and I had to go through the interesting landscape of Game Theory. The one that helps to calculate economic strategies, not the one that we use to seduce women. (You may have heard about Robert Nash, the father of Game Theory). 

As I was reading the book, an idea appeared, first small and innocent and then bigger and bigger, until it was too big to ignore: I dropped the book and focused completely on my thought.

What if we made the whole pickup process a game ?I mean a real game, with points, participants and everything.

I called my wingman and in few hours Fast Flirting, the free pickup game, was born.

It took us two days to devise the first version of the rules, and we went out in the city bars to test it.

The results were amazing. Under the cover of a game, we not only had results, we were amazing. Friends that had never collected a single number would manage to get a kiss close during the night. In the few weeks that followed, the whole group of friends had transformed themselves to pickup artists. I never liked the term pickup artist, but that was what we were doing. Playing and improvising aspects of pickup in the streets, like street artists that perform: and we were improving in geometrical rhythms.

Playing Fast Flirting really puts you in the Zone. Every Friday and Saturday night, society, as we knew it, dissapeared. Everything in our path became a huge playground and we were all striving for better, for faster and… for sexier. We would all close and become more and more audacious. While, most community members  would avoid talking to sets that had other men inside, we reached a level that we would even provoke AMOG battles between us, just to score more points.  People would see us clashing head on for the heart of some pretty girl, while all people around us were listening but could not understand what was going on.

After each game, all players would gather and would discuss what they had learned during that night, the good things, the lessons and the WTF moments we had. Laughs would cover words and as we were drinking the last beers of the night, we would already plan another night.

One night as I was driving  home, I understood why this shift took place. This game had tapped a secret channel of motivation that had been hidden from us until then: the candid, childish competition that every child knows about but that we had forgotten about. We were no longer sarging, we were playing, like a group of children exploring their social limits. This is the nature of humans: to play and explore, not to do a repetitive, boring drill.

For us sarging had been replaced by something far better: playing -> Fast Flirting.

In the months that followed all the members of that early Fast Flirting endeavor managed to improve themselves and become process orientated. Their seduction skill level reached a threshold that Fast Flirting was no longer necessary for them: They now open only to close. Many have even quit the game as they have found that one girl that they were looking for.

This game has left us with a good skill set and some very beautiful memories. As a last gesture we would like to share this tool, with you, the seduction community.

Please feel free to use it as much as you want.

In the following link, you can find all the open, free rules of Fast Flirting. Take good care of it 

http://www.fast-flirting-pickup-game.info/

Best, 

Dan

Happy Turkey Day Smooth Nation. This week’s delectable dish ain’t bird, it’s our PullJoy©: Hottie Of The Week, Paula Patton:

Feast on that, boys.

Fans of  CBS’s new “The Good Wife” will recognize our PullJoy©:  Hottie Of The Week from the cast:

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This week’s PullJoy© Hottie of the Week is the lovely Gina Gershon:

’nuff said?

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There are plenty of reasons to watch MSNBC: Tamron Hall, Mika Brzezinski, Erin Burnett, and Courtney Hazlett and  among them.

Then there’s Contessa Brewer:

She sure has a lovely mouth.

ST

Those lifestyle savants at Be Better Guys have tagged our post about success with beautiful women, from a mental standpoint:

http://www.bebetterguys.com/your-life/dating/success-with-women-its-all-in-the-mind-2.html

Thanks again Brian and Dave. And for Smooth Nation (AKA my readers), there’s no better place to go for tips concerning grooming, wardrobe, and culinary skills than the aforementioned website.

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