How to Use Rejection In Your Favor: In Pickup Game

Women have different tastes, and no man, however PullJoy, appeals to all women. Attraction depends on timing, conversational tone, confidence, and reciprocal interest, among other factors. Rejection is part and parcel of seduction. One geek parlayed rejection in his favor. Read this piece, or listen to this NPR broadcast, to learn how to convert rebuffs into a game, a desired result:

Live The Dream,


Street Talk: Why Men Catcall Women

Gothamist teamed up w/ Marabigo, to determine why some men catcall strange women in the streets. In no way does PullJoy condone street harassment or profanity:

Lee “SmoothTalker” Coles

Steve Santagati on CNN Women Wouldn’t Object to Catcalling ‘If the Men Were Hot’

Guys don’t get this entire catcalling discussion. Steve Santagati, author of the MANual, told CNN’s Frederika Whitfield and comic Amanda Seales,

Santagati opined, “The bottom line is this, ladies: you would not care if all these guys were hot. They would be bolstering your self-esteem bolstering your ego. There’s nothing more than a woman loves to hear than how pretty she is.” UNTRUE, Smooth Nation. The reason women do not like verbal sexual harassment IS that it is unsolicited. If a woman shoots you a flirtatious glance in a mall, nightclub, or concert, or you have struck up an exchange of banter, flattery or flirting is in line. But yelling, shouting from cars, profanity, and citing body parts when you are strangers, is unwelcome, not every woman’s dream, and does not enhance female self-esteem. Trust me. But explaining the ladies’ point of view to Santagati, is like explaining how Blacks feel about having racial slurs shouted at them or being followed by staff in retail stores, to a bigot. Keep it smooth, and keep it clean. In the event you do speak on the street, introduce yourself, ask the woman’s name, and be PullJoy from close quarters.

Lee “SmoothTalker” Coles

Street Harassment Is Not Pickup, Nor is it PullJoy

A video gone viral is Hollaback!’s expose of the street harassment and catcalls a young NYC model experienced during 10 hours walking the Gotham streets. The young lady endured more than 100 catcalls and unsolicited remarks, about one every six minutes:

SmoothNation, this is not how we roll. We do not speak to women from behind them, which is creepy. We do not follow strangers, we converse when mutual attraction has been demonstrated. We don’t blurt out “Sex-y!!!” or “Hey baby!”, verbally cite body parts, or berate women for not smiling. Pickup is private, well timed, and respectful. If that vid didn’t skeeze you out enough, or give you a feel of what the women you approach, hear 24-7, he’s an instructive primer from ‘The Daily Show”‘s Jessica Williams:

Let’s maintain proper social distance, volume, and language, and keep it clean. There’s a vast difference between catcalls and smooth, PullJoy pickup. A**clowns give all of us a bad name.

Lee “ST” Coles

The Homeless Pickup Artist: New York Man Sleeps With 2-3 Women a Week

Being PullJoy is a matter of of remaining in “state”, moreso than flashing status or material gain with women. One need not boast or be insecure about one’s career when approaching strange women. It is more important to demonstrate interest, exude confidence, and relax. Take a page from the playbook of a homeless man in New York City, which is crawling with sexy singles. He goes home with two or three women a week, and sleeps with them as a means of staying off the street. If he can be PullJoy, so can you Smooth Nation:

Lee “SmoothTalker”Coles

If Approached Properly, Women Enjoy Casual Sex as Much as Men

Sgt. Bennet Marco in the novel The Manchurian Candidate was correct. 55 years ago, that character told the protagonist, that if properly approached, and if certain variables were in place, women are as interested in casual sex as men. Here are articles that not only reference the famous Russell Clark, Florida State study, which posited that women (in that case college students) are unanimously disinterested in sex with strangers, but debunk that study, and support Sgt. Marco’s claim:

“In a newly published paper describing a series of studies, University of Michigan psychologist Terri Conley asserts that “when women are presented with proposers who are equivalent in terms of safety and sexual prowess, they will be equally likely as men to engage in casual sex.””

So there you have it. I’ve referenced the Manchurian Candidate passage in previous blog posts. What concerns you here, Smooth Nation, is that, if they expect physical satisfaction, and feel safe, women have the same attitude toward a surprise lay, as we do. Two of the keys to leveling the playing field, so to speak, are convincing the woman her desire will be fulfilled, and that she will be physically safe. If you have become PullJoy, the former is a given. The latter, you can establish in one meeting, via social standing (again, see previous posts).

So now that the greatest American myth has been debunked, why are you still at your keyboard. Get up, get dressed, get out, and get sexed. Let me know how it goes.

Lee “SmoothTalker” Coles

AKA “The Babe Whisperer”

New Movie Don Jon About a Pickup Artist

Smooth Nation, go see “Don Jon”, Joseph Gordon-Levitt’s new film about a pickup artist who attempts to seduce Scarlett Johannson and Julianne Moore:

I look forward to hearing your thoughts.