Not that many people would be able to speak from personal experience, having only been one or the other. Philosophically, there is no answer. In the world of attraction and seduction, which would you rather be? Some men say women hold all th cards when it comes to sex, but that plays into the antiquated assumption that they are the “prey”, and never flirt themselves.
When you put your finger in your ear, what feels better, your finger or your ear?
Here’s a tongue-in-cheek view from across the pond: