Guys don’t get this entire catcalling discussion. Steve Santagati, author of the MANual, told CNN’s Frederika Whitfield and comic Amanda Seales,
Santagati opined, “The bottom line is this, ladies: you would not care if all these guys were hot. They would be bolstering your self-esteem bolstering your ego. There’s nothing more than a woman loves to hear than how pretty she is.” UNTRUE, Smooth Nation. The reason women do not like verbal sexual harassment IS that it is unsolicited. If a woman shoots you a flirtatious glance in a mall, nightclub, or concert, or you have struck up an exchange of banter, flattery or flirting is in line. But yelling, shouting from cars, profanity, and citing body parts when you are strangers, is unwelcome, not every woman’s dream, and does not enhance female self-esteem. Trust me. But explaining the ladies’ point of view to Santagati, is like explaining how Blacks feel about having racial slurs shouted at them or being followed by staff in retail stores, to a bigot. Keep it smooth, and keep it clean. In the event you do speak on the street, introduce yourself, ask the woman’s name, and be PullJoy from close quarters.
Lee “SmoothTalker” Coles